SKIN DEEP

I have always been a bit of a perfectionist.  For those of you who share my disease, you know this is quite the cross to bear.  You tend to over-do, over-work, over-say, over- everything.  You also tend to be fiercely competitive.  I'm all for a little healthy competition.  But in this age of selfies, shoulder rubbing photos, and locational brag moments, we have made competing and comparing the new American pass time.  At the end of the day, after all the celebrity snap-chats, 30-year old millionaires, fairy tale endings, and perfect images that dominate our online existence, most of us hugely fall short.   Even more, we have recklessly adopted these unrealistic ideals as a culture, ideals that NO ONE could live up to. . . even on their best day.

 And here is just a little sample of what these "ideals" have caused.  Over 25 million people in the US alone suffer from an eating disorder.  A little over 50% of people with eating disorders also suffer from severe depression.  We are creating a culture that makes most of us feel terrible about ourselves, and terrible about our lives.  It's tragic.   We have become our own worst enemy.

I have gone thru my own moments of self- doubt, wishing I was more this and less that.  But the truth is, there is only so much we can change about ourselves. Who decided that it so important we are all the same?  Who created this invisible bar that most of us inevitably fall short of?   

Some of the things we like least about ourselves can sometimes be a blessing in disguise.  Instead of trying to change everything, what if we appreciated our differences? You are more amazing than you know.  And the person you are inside, that soul of yours?  That's your most valuable asset.  And what's awesome is that YOU get to choose what kind of soul you have.  And the beautiful souls?  They always shine thru the brightest.  It can make a mediocre person look amazing, just like an ugly soul can make a "beautiful person" unbelievably ugly.  Be beautiful this week.  Quit letting other people decide what's "ideal".  Just be you . .  messy, imperfect, unique, one-of-a-kind, beautiful . . YOU.

" You knit me together in my mothers womb.  I praise you because I am fearfully and wonderfully made